2016-06-24

Crush v. First Love

It is said that a crush will typically fade out after about 4 months, in the absence of any "extenuating circumstances" that would either fan the flames or interrupt the process.  That seems about right, in the case of an ordinary crush. 

But the previous post was about first loves that never fade away, remaining forever luminous.  Some of these loves must seem to be crushes when they start.  When is a crush not a crush?

Like anything else, we can say that "time will tell" or follow the ancient Greeks in reserving judgement on anyone's fate until we see if they "die well".  But that doesn't help the poor souls trying to decide these things "on the fly".

What is a neverending crush like?  When is it something else?  Not sure that there are any infallible criteria to test this other than a gut feeling .  But somewhere it was recently published that the gut has more nerve endings than the brain, so a "gut feeling" may have some scientific basis.

NJ Kpopper is going to file this away under topics for reflection and report back if any "infallible criteria" are found.


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